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Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Hope Amidst Heartbreak, Time to Move On

Over the course of (almost) four years and 1500+ posts, I have rarely dealt with Heavy Duty Personal Issues on Dumbass News.   

Today I will.

Today's post will be personal.

Very personal.

If you came here looking for teh funnay, I ain't got it today.

Abrupt and dramatic change is taking place at the Dumbass Dome. 

Yesterday, after almost 10 years together, Mrs. Fearless Leader told me that my services as a husband were no longer needed. She asked me for a divorce.

While, like millions of other marriages, ours has had its share of ups and downs, I thought that we'd always have the wherewithal to overcome any obstacle blocking our path to Forever Together.

I was wrong.

There's plenty of blame to pass around as a result of this mess, but I, nor the Soon-to-Be Ex Mrs. Fearless Leader will be throwing shit each at the other simply because we can no longer maintain a viable marriage. (I think this is the first time in my adult life that I have actually acted like an adult!) She will still be my Best Friend, just not my wife.

Regardless, I am totally devastated.

I know that things will, over time, smooth out and life will go on, but at this moment in time, that light at the end of the tunnel looks like the fright train headed straight at me.

Other than the loss of a loved one or dear friend, this is the most overwhelming and depressing thing that has ever happened to me.

I am lost.

I am hurt.

I am confused.

I am not "all right".

That said, I am a pretty resilient guy so I'll bounce back and continue to cherish every sunrise that the Good Lord will bless me with.

I was just hoping to see every glorious one of them with Heather.

Alas, it was not meant to be.

I know deep in my heart of hearts, however, that there is hope amidst heartbreak.

After all, Hope springs eternal.

Doesn't it?

To be continued........



  1. Sounds to me like you're handling it about as well as possible. Stay friends, stay civil, and remember that, as with everything, this too shall pass.

    1. Thank you, Jake!

      I really appreciate the comment and support.

      It's a tough time for me to be sure, but life goes on and I'll take the lemons in this situation and make lemonade out of them.

  2. i'm really sorry to hear that. hang in there, my friend...

    1. Jman, thanks for taking time to show me some Blog Brother Love.

  3. I'm sorry.
    It's okay to be lost for a bit, and to hurt, and to let your emotions run their course.
    And, as Jake said, this will pass.
    And, thank you for showing that even in our darkest moments we can still be civil and act like adults, act like the humans we are supposed to be.
    If you ever need a friendly ear, you know how to find me, right?

  4. Damn Toby I'm so sorry to hear that! Hugs to you and keep the faith, brother. It'll be dark before it gets light again but IT WILL GET LIGHT AGAIN. Believe that.

    1. Thank you for being such a wonderful friend, Teri.

      I can not tell you how much your supportive words mean to me.

  5. I will always be here for you, I will always love the person you are and I will always be your friend. You are a good person and a great father. These little girls love you to the moon and back and I want you to know you will always have my respect. Thank you for the years you have given me and the beautiful little girl you have blessed my life with.

    1. My life has been blessed beyond my wildest dreams by the three of you.

      It is I who should be doing the thanking here.

      Now, I am gonna cry.

      Are Fearless Leaders allowed to bawl like a baby?

    2. Yes they are and is it ok for ex mrs fearless leaders to cry along side the fearless leader?

  6. My dear friend, I am so very sorry and my heart goes out to you both. I'll keep you in my prayers. *hugs*

    1. My heartfelt thanks, Chris.

      You are a good Blog Buddy.

  7. Geezus H, Toby... that is just absolutely devastating news!

    I'm so sorry to hear that and my heart goes out to both of you and the girls. Stay strong and you know you always have at least one true friend in the world you can talk to if need be. Hang in there, bro!

    Damn . . .

    1. Thanks, Kev.

      It's a pretty painful deal, but we will remain friends and do what it takes to raise our girls right.

      I really appreciate the very kind thoughts, amigo.

  8. Wow, Toby. I'm really sorry to hear this.

    Take the time you need and let yourself feel all the feels.


    1. Thanks, Jen.

      The feels are all making their appointed rounds.


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